After the loss of a loved one, you will need time to grieve and heal. You will also need to care for yourself throughout the grief process. It is important that you give yourself permission to engage in self care. You are not able to take care of others, until you have taken care of yourself. Self care is not indulgent, or extravagant. It is not selfish to take care of yourself during this time, it is necessary.
Here are a few self care ideas. Start by trying one or two of the items on the list, and see what feels right to you.
- Take a bath. A nice warm bath can be very soothing. You may consider lighting an aromatherapy candle and/or using lavender bath salts (lavender is known for its calming and relaxing properties- and it smells nice!).
- Take a nap in the middle of the day. Rest is good for the body, mind, and soul. Rest is especially important during and after stressful life events such as a death in the family, or a difficult divorce.
- Make sure you eat. It is not uncommon to have a loss of appetite, and eating may feel like a chore, but it is an important. Your body needs the nutrients and sustenance. Try to eat wholesome and nourishing meals- or several snacks a day- that provide your body with the vitamins and nutrients it needs to be healthy.
- Write. Write a letter to your loved one. Write all of the things that you want to say to that person. Allow yourself to openly and honestly say what is in your heart. Journaling is also another great option. Find a nice journal that speaks to you, and fill the pages with your innermost thoughts and feelings. It is your personal journal, your safe place to say whatever you want or need to say.
- Get outside. No matter the weather. Put on the right clothes and get outside. Go for a walk, sit on a bench or a log. Quiet yourself and listen to the sounds all around you. Get fresh air, and a change of scenery.
- Talk to a professional. Grief counselors can be helpful when you’re not quite sure how to go about grieving. There is never any shame in getting help from a professional; after all, when the plumbing goes out, you call a plumber; when you need a new roof, you call a roofer. Talking to a grief counselor is a great way to get helpful insight, new ideas, and guidance through a very difficult time in your life.
Resources used in this blog article include an article found on Urnsonline.com which is a funeral resource that offers consumer guides, creative memorial service ideas, analysis of current funeral industry trends, and products such as cremation urns, heirloom jewelry, and memorial gifts. 1/25/2018